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Stop Listening to Arms

I think everyone should get an education. But at the same time, I’ve known many people who have succeeded without one. In fact—while I value education—I think it’s a complete farce. Education will not make you successful, even though that’s what it promises. It won’t even always teach you what you need to know in life.

True, if you want to be a doctor, lawyer, or scientist, an education is a must. It’s vital to your career. And you will learn valuable information that will help you in your career.

But my job (I’m still not sure what I do)… There’s no degree for that. My brother’s job—leading adventure expedition/conferences—there’s no degree for that. Unfortunately, that doesn’t keep people from saying you need an education to succeed at life. (more…)


The Enemy of Your Dream is Tomorrow

I’ve found the biggest enemy to following your dream isn’t being busy. It’s not an overloaded schedule. Almost everyone deals with that, even those who accomplish their dreams.

The biggest dream is knowing that you can follow your dream tomorrow. “I’m busy today. I’ll work on my dream tomorrow.” Unfortunately, tomorrow turns into a week from now. A week from now turns into when things slow down at work. That turns into next summer. Vacation comes and pushes that idea further back.

Eventually you find yourself with a dream that’s all but died, simply because you knew it would always be there. Unfortunately, now you’ve lost all passion and energy for the project. It’s never going to happen. (more…)


My Next Book Comes Out This Month

Created for More released September 1st. My next book comes out October 27th. Don’t worry, I think I won’t have another for a few more months. *wink*

Unwelcome is a book for churches. It talks about some of the things churches do that scare away first-time guests. It’s a mixture of personal experience, ministerial philosophy, and fun stories.

The fine folks at the Center for Church Communication partnered with me on publishing this bad boy. Should be fun to see how churches react and engage with the book. My hope is that churches across the US (and even internationally) will take one giant leap forward in becoming a welcoming church.


What Experts Have that You Don’t

Have you ever met someone who simply drips wisdom? You sit with them at a table and, no matter what you ask, they have beautiful things to say about the subject. They have short tweetable words for you and illustrations that simply blow your mind. How can they be such experts?

What do they have that you don’t? They have wrestling experience.

Most people never wrestle with their own beliefs. They never have to face inconsistencies in their logic. They never have to identify areas where they may be ignorant about a subject. They never come to the end of their immediate knowledge, causing them to have to research to learn more. (more…)


Worry About Your Own Leap

There I was on a bridge. Train tracks a few feet behind me, water 50 feet below me, and nothing but fear ahead of me. “You’re sure you’ve jumped off this bridge before? The river is deep enough?”

“Ya man. Me and some friends have totally done this before.” I was expecting him to take the leap first, because he’d obviously already jumped. But he was very hesitant. In fact, I was pretty sure he wasn’t going to do it.

Screw it, I thought. I’ll jump first. So I climbed over the railing on the bridge. I could have climbed back down to the floor of the bridge on the other side, but I figured a few extra feet wouldn’t matter too much. I steadied myself, and before I had the chance to overthink it, I jumped. (more…)


Pain is an Opportunity

I had just been fired. Now I had to go home and share what happened with my wife.

When I opened my front door, I was greeted by the maintenance guy from my apartment complex fixing my dishwasher disposal. I tried to be polite and cheerful to him. I was waiting for him to leave so I could sit in silence for a few hours—before my wife got home. I wanted to process it all before telling her. I felt ashamed. Plus I wanted to present it in a way that wouldn’t cause her to worry about our finances.

Then my wife walked in the door. She was home early from school.

“Hey babe!” she greeted me cheerily. It was awkward with the maintenance guy in the room to be too expressive. “You’re home early. How’d you swing that?” (more…)


One Word Dreamers Can’t Afford to Fear

Sticks and stones can break your bones, but words will cut you deeper. At least that’s what the Bible indicates when it says there’s both life and death in the power of the tongue.

One idle word or sentence at the wrong time can discourage you. Dissuade you. Destroy you. But there’s one word that seems to scare dreamers more than anything. This one word keeps many from following their dream or for asking for help. It’s the word “no”.

No matter what you’re asking or how you phrase your question, there’s a good chance you’ll hear no quite a bit. I’ve even learned to say no to those pesky salesmen who seem to know how to trick you into saying yes. “Would you like to learn how to save some money today?” “What if I told you there was a way to get 2,000 more cable channels and save $20/month. Would you be interested in that?” No. (more…)


Comparison, Economics, and Pizza

Every child understands one economic principle. It’s the principle of scarcity of resources. I learned this as it applies to pizza.

Whenever my parents would order pizza, it seemed like there was never quite enough for each of us Malm children to have our fill. So in order for me to get as much pizza as I wanted, I had to make sure I got it before my brother did. Or if I wanted the pieces that had the most pepperoni, I had to go for those first or trick my siblings into grabbing the cheese-only slices.

Scarcity of resources is the principle that in order for me to have something, it means that you can’t have it. If there are only a million dollars in the world, and I want to be a millionaire, nobody else can have any money. Depressing, no? (more…)


If you don’t have something nice to say…

“If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I’m not sure when it happened. But that’s no longer the adage people live by. Now it’s, “If you don’t have something nice to say, spread your negativity all over social media.”

We learned the first truth about holding our tongue in elementary school. We learned to be nice to others. We learned that if you want friends, you have to be kind and encourage people.

But later on in life, we get rewarded for rudeness and negativity. People laugh at our cruel jokes. Followers retweet our criticisms of the Osteens. Cynical bloggers gain page views. So we drift away from the “don’t say anything negative” philosophy to the “spew all your negativity” approach. (more…)