I’ve got a friend who wants to flex his entrepreneurial muscle. He’s a starter at his core. But he doesn’t know what idea to follow. He doesn’t know what his “one thing” is.
That’s a problem many entrepreneurial minds have. They have so many great ideas, they don’t know which one to go with. And the fear is that they’ll miss out on the huge idea and follow the small idea.
It’s a somewhat valid fear. If you’re wasting your time doing “good” things, you won’t have time to do the great things. Fortunately, though, I don’t know of any entrepreneur who has just one thing. (more…)
In ninth grade, I attended a great private school. It was one of those smaller, Christian schools that taught Latin. And it was the type where a teacher could smack you on the back of the head with a ruler if you weren’t doing your schoolwork during the assigned time. All of the faculty and parents seemed to be okay with that. Fortunately, I never had a problem with any of my teachers or the administration. I was a straight-A student and all of my teachers loved me.
But one day, my Latin teacher asked me to come by his office after class. He sat me down and said, “I don’t think you’re living up to your full potential.”
Frankly, this baffled me. I mean, yes I was getting a 95 on my test when I could have gotten 100, but that was still an A. Those extra points don’t matter. A 95 is a 4.0 on the GPA scale. A 100 is a 4.0 on the GPA scale. And guess what? So is a 90. (more…)
I wouldn’t call myself a paranoid person. But there are times I find myself dwelling on irrational fears. For instance, sometimes when I’m driving my car on a nice day, I put my arm out the window to feel the cool air between my fingers. In that instance, a small fear creeps into my mind. What if a car comes by and severs my hand? How would I be able to write and do my job without a left hand? For the next few minutes, I imagine myself sitting at a computer with only one hand, pecking away like a hen at corn on the ground. Or I imagine I’ll have to hire a secretary who will write down all my thoughts as I dictate them to her. Of course I’ll need to become better at public speaking, otherwise the writing will be atrocious. I wrote so much better than I speak. (more…)
During orientation at college, I learned that knowledge made you a better person. The key to every problem in the world—war, poverty, hate—was a more intellectual population.
Unfortunately, after my first set of classes, I learned that education didn’t make you a better person. In fact, most of my professors were horrible people. Under the guise of intellectualism and tolerance, they spouted some of the most hateful and intolerant things I’ve ever heard. They were the liberal version of Bible-thumping hellfire preachers.
So I soon came to the conclusion that education ensured you would be successful. Only, that newfound knowledge didn’t last for very long when I met professors who were complaining that a Bachelors degree wasn’t worth anything anymore. If you want to really be successful, you have to have a Masters or Doctoral degree. That would ensure your success. (more…)
What do you do if you find that all your friends are losers and life-suckers…if you find your friends are taking you places you don’t want to go and draining all of your life energy so you just want to give up on life.
Okay, so maybe all your friends aren’t that bad. But maybe you find that your friends are encouraging folks. They aren’t the type who make you want to risk. In fact, they seem to be the ones who discourage innovation and individuality. These are the types who seem to call you and ask to hang out, while the ones who would be the best type of people to hang out seem to be busy with all their own friends.
This happens often. The people who are the most life-giving and inspiring are the ones everyone wants to hang around. While the ones who aren’t…well…they’re the ones who have time to call you up and ask you to come over to their house. They’re the ones who are willing to dog you about going out drinking with them on a Friday night. (more…)
I talked last week quite a bit about the people you naturally attract. It’s a chance for you to influence others for the positive—for individuality, risk, passion for God, etc.
But what if you attract the wrong kind of people? The truth is, some of the people I’ve attracted in my life are not necessarily the types of people I want to hang around with. A sportscaster named Charlie Jones said, “You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” Those people and those books will either take you closer to the person you want to be or further away from it.
1 Corinthians 15:33 says it like this: Stop being deceived: “Wicked friends lead to evil ends.” (more…)
We talked Wednesday about the people you will naturally reach. These are the folks who are naturally attracted to you. And this is also the opportunity you have for influence.
Be sure, you have the chance to influence other people. Those people you naturally attract, you have just as much chance to influence them as they have to influence you. Unfortunately, too many people choose to be influenced rather than to influence. But we were made to influence, not to be influenced.
So how do you influence those you reach? Where do you want to aim them? (more…)
I’m the type of person who wants everyone to like me. I personally believe for me it’s a bit of a competition. Subconsciously, I want to be everybody’s best friend. God forbid someone doesn’t like me. And God forbid someone likes someone else more than me.
I’ve been working to overcome this major flaw in my personality. First of all, I know I can’t be the most amazing person in the world. I know I can’t make everyone happy all the time. Secondly, I know I shouldn’t make everyone happy. But there’s still the pull to be the most liked person in all of history.
But I’ve been realizing it’s impossible to please everyone. Part of that realization comes from this: Nearly everyone in the world is someone’s best friend. All those jerks who cut me off in traffic… All those people who comment on YouTube videos… All those neighbors with incessantly barking dogs… They all have people who love them and think they’re amazing. (more…)
I’m currently writing two books at once. One’s a church leadership-type book, the other is a “discover yourself” type book. They’re different. And I’m so glad I’m writing them at the same time.
I did this with Created for More and Unwelcome. I didn’t intend for them to release within a month of each other; that just happened. But I found it so liberating to write the two at once. And here’s why. (more…)
There’s a popular concept going around the church and it’s this: Everyone is a leader. Along with that, everyone is their own replicator. If everyone’s a leader, everyone is supposed to spend much of their time replicating themselves. Essentially, we should keep promoting ourselves in higher and higher leadership roles as other people take over our previous roles.
Many people aren’t going to like this statement I’m about to make: Not everyone is a leader. And more than that, some people should never grow beyond their current role.
There’s a concept in business called the Peter Principle. The premise of the principle is that if someone in business is doing well, they get promoted. They keep getting promoted until they stop doing a good job. So inevitably what happens, is the people who are stuck in their jobs are the people who got promoted beyond their ability. Eventually, everyone sucks at their job because they got promoted out of their competence. (more…)