I’m the type of person who wants everyone to like me. I personally believe for me it’s a bit of a competition. Subconsciously, I want to be everybody’s best friend. God forbid someone doesn’t like me. And God forbid someone likes someone else more than me.
I’ve been working to overcome this major flaw in my personality. First of all, I know I can’t be the most amazing person in the world. I know I can’t make everyone happy all the time. Secondly, I know I shouldn’t make everyone happy. But there’s still the pull to be the most liked person in all of history.
But I’ve been realizing it’s impossible to please everyone. Part of that realization comes from this: Nearly everyone in the world is someone’s best friend. All those jerks who cut me off in traffic… All those people who comment on YouTube videos… All those neighbors with incessantly barking dogs… They all have people who love them and think they’re amazing.
Every single person in this world attracts someone. We can’t attract everyone, but we do have those that seem to be drawn to us. Now, I could fight and trying to make everyone like me, or I could embrace the fact that I’ll only ever reach the people I’m going to reach.
God has designed me with a certain personality, outward appearance, value-system, confidence level, intelligence, and sense of humor. That package will draw certain people, and likely repel others. He designed me with this set for a specific purpose.
The key for me is to discover that specific purpose and influence those people God has called me to reach. I don’t need to worry about the ones I’ll never reach. I need to focus on the ones God sends my way and be responsible with the gift of attraction He has given me.
He’s given you the same gift. What will you do with it?