I’ve begun systematically removing the haters from my life. That means unfollowing, unfriending, disassociating…person after person. I have no time for negativity in my life.
But that doesn’t mean I cut out everyone who provides good critiques and wise counsel. Those things are vital. I need those people in my life. But the hater – the true haters – need to be gone.
So how do you know whether or not someone’s a hater? I’m so glad you asked.
1. Haters are contrary. Post a joke on Facebook. Haters will contradict you just so they feel good. Post a cool quote on Twitter. Haters will respond with their “modifications”. Haters are all about bringing themselves up while forcing you down. When this is a pattern in their lives, they’re a hater.
2. Haters will tell you why something won’t work. Encouragers will give you safeguards. “Make sure you do this.” “Make sure you have this system in place.” “It will work if you…” But haters criticize. They don’t offer helpful solutions.
3. Haters fear risk. If someone’s “warning” you about taking a risk, but have never taken any risks on their own, they’re a hater. If they failed miserably and stopped trying, they’re a hater. You don’t really need to listen to them. Do, however, listen to those who have taken their own risks – especially those who have succeeded through their risks. They have much wisdom. You need to learn from them and soak up everything they say.
So I encourage you, cut out the haters in your life. Surround yourself with encouragers. Surround yourself with people who’ve taken big risks and done amazing things – even if you have nothing in common. Your ambition and desire to do great things is common ground enough.