I had the best argument with my friend Dave Chapman this morning. He’s helping me rebrand Church Stage Design Ideas as well as a few other sites. I had a vision. I had passion. He had a vision. He had passion. And we were fighting back and forth for it.
At one point, one of the RT Creative Group developers approached the office and shut the door. We were getting loud.
I was worried at some point this might affect our friendship. We were both unrelenting and at times vicious. (Though we never attacked each other or said mean things.)
Imagine my delight, when we’d come to consensus, we laughed and joked. We went to lunch and enjoyed each other’s company. There were no bad feelings and we both loved our meeting.
We were both wanting the best idea to prevail. That was our purpose. We weren’t fighting for our ideas. We were fighting for the best ideas. And the best idea won out – mostly his. I was happy to lose the argument because the best idea came to pass. And he was happy to relent a few places because the best idea won out.
It ended up a mixture of both of our ideas. And that’s what made it the best argument I’ve ever had.
Argue for ideas. Not for your ideas. Not for your ego. And if it ever gets to be about either of those things…give up and let the other person win. Nothing good comes from those kind.
But when you truly want the best idea to win…that’s a great argument.