What do you do if you find that all your friends are losers and life-suckers…if you find your friends are taking you places you don’t want to go and draining all of your life energy so you just want to give up on life.
Okay, so maybe all your friends aren’t that bad. But maybe you find that your friends are encouraging folks. They aren’t the type who make you want to risk. In fact, they seem to be the ones who discourage innovation and individuality. These are the types who seem to call you and ask to hang out, while the ones who would be the best type of people to hang out seem to be busy with all their own friends.
This happens often. The people who are the most life-giving and inspiring are the ones everyone wants to hang around. While the ones who aren’t…well…they’re the ones who have time to call you up and ask you to come over to their house. They’re the ones who are willing to dog you about going out drinking with them on a Friday night.
This can be an especially difficult situation if you’ve recently moved or made a big life decision. But it can be just as daunting if you’ve grown up in a family or atmosphere that discourages individuality and innovation. So how do you ditch the losers and befriend the winners?
It isn’t exactly easy to do, but it’s easy to explain. You make friends with the ones you want to be friends with. The Bible says that if we want to have friends, we have to show ourself friendly.
You have to make the investment. You have to identify the people you want to befriend. Ask them over to your house. Invite them out for coffee. Take them to dinner. Find a time they’re available and reach out to them.
The best people you’ll meet are always willing to invest in others’ lives, because they’ve seen that it comes back to them. And that’s the big principle: What do you want out of life? Do you want encouragement, love, friendship, investment? That’s what you give to other people.
It’s the principle of sewing and reaping applied to friendships. You invest in the right type of friendships, and you’ll find the returns come back to you.
So here’s my question for you today: Who do you need to befriend? And who do you need to stop calling or start ignoring calls from?
